We have been RVing for over 25 years and for much of that time in a 38-foot Class A motorhome.
We’ve clearly learned how to survive living and traveling together in the allotted space. If we hadn’t, we either would’ve killed each other by now or given up on our dream of RVing. I don’t know which would’ve been the worse outcome.
All joking aside, RVing with your spouse is a wonderful and very special experience. But it does come with some BIG challenges.
So, I’m sharing my UNWRITTEN rules that have helped us remain happy all these years of RVing. Hopefully, they will help you not only survive RVing with your spouse but truly enjoy the experience!
The following rules are based on challenges we’ve had to overcome ourselves. Some of these rules we figured out pretty quickly. Others we wish we would’ve learned much faster!
Let’s hope that by us writing them down, you get a headstart on a happy, healthy RVing marriage!
By the way, these rules apply to traveling partners and companions, too, not just spouses!

1. Adopt the 330 rule
The rule encourages manageable daily travel distances
This is one of those rules we learned the hard way. The problem was I wanted to get as far as I could as fast as I could whenever we hit the road. I kept trying to set a new personal best. It’s over 650 miles in one day, by the way.
I was impressed with myself when I set that record but now I’m impressed to drive fewer miles and really enjoy the journey.
Yes, finally sanity prevailed and we adopted the 330 Rule. It goes like this:
Stop when you have driven 330 miles or its 3:30 in the afternoon.
You can learn more about the value of the 330 rule here.
2. Staying organied is a team effort
Makes the experience smoother and more enjoyable for everyone
Staying organized is essential when living the RV lifestyle. And the only way you’ll successfully stay organized is to make it a team effort.
Sure, your spouse may pick up the slack and keep everything organized for you—but for how long? How many times will they trip over your shoes or put the flashlight back before they throw them at your head?
Ok, let’s hope they don’t actually throw them at you but you get my point. When living in tight quarters you both have to do your part in staying organized. To stay organized together in an RV, follow Marie Kondo’s organization method where you have a place for everything and everything in its place.

3. Share decision making
Leads to better choices and stronger teamwork
RVers face a very real challenge called decision fatigue. It’s when you become mentally and emotionally exhausted from having to make too many decisions in a short time.
As RVers, you’re constantly deciding when to leave, where to stop, what to eat, where to camp, what to do, and so on and so on. And when it comes to RVing couples the decision-making often falls on the head of one person.
That’s why it’s important to share decision-making. How that looks for you will vary. Maybe you’ll designate certain decisions for each spouse. Or maybe you’ll take turns on an hourly, daily, or trip basis.
However you do it, share the mental load!
4. Intentionally spend quality time together
Strengthens bonds and creates lasting memories
RVing couples spend a lot of time together but that doesn’t mean its all quality time! There are many frustrated RV spouses that are lonely even though they’re together all the time. In some cases, one spouse feels neglected while the other obliviously enjoys their Me Time—all the time.
The point is you need to be intentional about spending quality time together. Whether that’s turning off the TV while you eat, going on walks together, or taking a date night in the town you’re visiting.

5. Give and take
Carving out personal moments helps recharge the mind and body
Speaking of Me Time, it is just as important as spending quality time together. When you live in close quarters and do everything together, the smallest frustrations will build up and eventually explode.
That’s why it’s important to take some Me Time AND make sure you give your spouse Me Time, too. Some spouses require more Me Time than others so you’ll need to figure out a healthy balance for both of you.
It can be as simple as letting your spouse read quietly or watch TV in peace or supporting their favorite camping hobbies.
6. Have a reset plan
Sometimes taking a few deep breaths together can be enough to restore calm and clarity
No matter how well you follow these rules or how well you get along you’ll inevitably get frustrated with each other. That’s true for spouses no matter their situation but it’s especially true when you travel or live in such tight quarters.
In many cases, it’s just little frustrations that build up to the point of bickering and eventually fighting. Let me give an example.
You get up after not sleeping so well and have to quickly pack up and hit the road. It’s taking longer than it should—you keep getting in each other’s way; the RV shouldn’t have gotten this cluttered in the first place!
By the time you’re on the road, you’re either bickering, ignoring each other, or all-out angry. Really, it’s over a bunch of little things that you shouldn’t let ruin the rest of your day and not enjoy the day’s journey let alone the rest of the road trip.
So, you need to reset! Have a reset button where you both take a deep breath and admit you need to reset.
Sometimes, just acknowledging you need a reset and taking some deep breaths together is enough. Other times, your plan needs to include taking some brief Me Time to cool off. But the intention is always to come back together quickly with a clean slate for the day.

7. Look for things to say thank you for
Cultivate a mindset of gratitude
One of the BEST ways to avoid little frustrations is to show gratitude for your partner as much as possible. Don’t just say thank you for the basics like cooking dinner or washing the dishes.
LOOK for little things to say thank you for. We say look for things because spouses often don’t even realize what the other spouse does for them.
If your spouse organizes a cabinet, thank them. If your spouse fixes a squeaky door, thank them. If your spouse booked camping reservations or looked up things to do or took the dog to the bathroom at 3 am, thank them.
The more you thank your spouse, the more you’ll realize something amazing happens—they’ll do even more nice things (it’s been proven!). So, if you’re both looking for things to thank your spouse for, you’ll continue to do nice things for each other.
It’s a beautiful circle!
8. Have defined RV duties (but know how to do all of them)
Sharing responsibilities while having the skills to handle all tasks contributes to safe, smooth, and enjoyable RV camping experiences
To avoid one person feeling like they’re carrying most of the load each person should have designated RV duties. This not only makes setup and teardown much more efficient but it ensures everyone’s doing their fair share. If you notice that one of you finishes their duties much earlier than the other it’s time to sit down and redesignate duties.
But, another very important thing I want to point out is that it’s VERY IMPORTANT that you at least know how to do your partner’s duties!
Why? Well, that takes some more explaining which you can read all about in Why Splitting RV Duties May Not Be a Great Idea.
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Worth Pondering…
Life truly begins only after you have put your house in order.
—Marie Kondo































































































